when we talk about people behind their backs, when we talk people down, when we degrade others with our words, when we bluntly dismiss other people’s feelings, when we engage in a conversation where we seek to build ourselves up or make ourselves look good by making others look bad- this is unwholesome talk.

unwholesome talks do not build people up, they are not edifying, they neither benefit the person doing the talking nor the person being talked about. Unwholesome talks grieves the Holy Spirit, they do not reflect kindness or a compassionate heart, rather such slanders many times indicate concealed bitterness, anger and unforgiveness.