Welcome back!

First, my sincere apologies for changing the title of this blog-post series from “Should a Christian man have more than one woman” to “One Eve (or more) for an Adam?”. I think the first title was too specific and I try not to use very specific and direct titles for my blog-posts.  Thank you.

We ended part 1 with questions….Many questions actually.

Is God unjust in expecting a man to be joined, committed and faithfully devoted  to only one woman having created man with an insatiable sexual appetite? Why has God commanded man against adultery? Why does He expect elders and leaders in the church to be husband of one wife? (Titus 1:6, 1 Timothy 3:12).

“Deacons must be husbands of only one wife and good managers of their children and their own households.”  1 Timothy 3:12

“..a man of unquestionable integrity, the husband of one wife, having children who believe, not accused of being immoral or rebellious.”  Titus 1:6

It would seem then that the integrity of God is being tested. What an unfair God? someone may say!

Is God unfair and impartial? The Bible tells me He’s not;

“But I know God to be impartial, just and good. The Rock! His work is perfect. For all His ways are just; a God of faithfulness without iniquity (injustice).  Just and upright is He”    Deuteronomy 32:4

“For the Lord your God is the God of gods and The Lord of lords, the great, the mighty, the awesome God who does not show partiality nor take bribe.”     Deuteronomy 10:17

I choose to believe that God is impartial. And I also know from the Bible that God does not give us a burden or yoke that we cannot bear.

From creation, God created Adam and made him an Eve. Could that suggest a ‘one man- one woman plan by God?’ Or how did Adam cope with his sexual urges? (his daughters?) ……. 🙂

I also see God talking about ‘One Flesh’ in Genesis 2:4

“For this reason a man shall leave his father and his mother and shall be joined to his wife and they shall become one flesh.”  

God’s ‘One Flesh‘ idea is formed when 1 man joins himself in marriage to 1 woman. So what happens when 1 man joins himself with more than one woman? Does he form multiple “One fleshes”?  🙂   *this is really interesting!

Here’s what Paul thinks in 1 Corinthians 6:16

“do you not know that the one who joins himself to a prostitute is one body with her? For He says, ‘the two shall be one flesh.”

Two things are coming out of this scripture for me;

1. Every time a man joins himself to a woman, ‘one flesh’ is formed. and
2. Sex is the connecting factor/link.      Therefore we can say that sex is not as ordinary as it would appear. Sex connects people much more than they know.  This should be advantageous in a marriage relationship, but outside of marriage…….?

My question to you then is; young man/woman, who have you been joining yourself to lately? Are you happy with the pockets of ‘One Fleshes’ you are making of yourself all around you? Would you want to be identified with them publicly? 🙂

I believe that God’s preference for marriage is between 1 man and 1 woman. I believe also that God delights in ‘a One Flesh’ and not many ‘pockets of One Fleshes.’  Therefore it must be that this one person has been equipped to meet your sexual needs and you his/hers.

What are your thoughts? Remember you can email them to me if you feel any discomfort commenting directly on the blog.

In part 3 we’ll look at some reasons why men would most times choose to think their sexual desires cannot be met by one woman and what help is available to them. And in part 4, I am going to deviate a bit and talk about ‘Managing Addiction to Pornography‘

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