Humility comes before honor. And I think that when the Bible says that pride leads to destruction one of the contributing factors to this is becoming frustrated at not being honored (as one would expect). I recognize that destruction can mean different things, but probably a central feature to it would be not achieving one’s full potential.

To seamlessly assert authority and receive submission in return, build trust by doing care, love and watching over. If you are lacking in these, you’re likely to be struggling with people submitting to you. A husband who keeps ranting, ‘I am the head of this home’, you must submit to my authority’ is very likely not performing his functions as the head. Just as submission in a marriage relationship is a lot easier when the husband plays his own part of loving the wife unconditionally, so it is much easier to submit to an authority when trust has been built. Lead according to the Word of God. Leading is more about relationship and influence than position.